Same sex relationships
Men first become aware that they’re gay when they start to feel sexually and emotionally attracted to members of the same sex. Recent surveys have found that 6 per cent of men have had some kind of homosexual experience. Another 2 per cent feel attracted to someone of their own sex but don’t act on it. Many researchers believe that these figures may well be an underestimate.
Everyone is different
It is important to remember that gay people are as diverse a group as straight people. No one would think that Tony Blair and Eminem must be practically identical because they both sleep with women – it makes as much sense as believing that all gay men are the same. They include people from every age, religion, cultural and racial group. Gay and bisexual men may have disabilities, be single, married, bereaved or parents. Being gay or bisexual can be a source of strength and pride.
Fears of "coming out"
There is great pressure in our society to be ‘straight’. This can make it difficult for gay people to ‘come out’ about their sexuality. Many fear the stigma and prejudice, even from their family and friends. Others fear losing their jobs. It’s important not to deny feelings and allow sexuality to develop at its own pace. No one has to cope alone. It may help to talk to a mate you feel you can trust or perhaps contact one of the many confidential helplines.
