Break up
When a relationship ends it can be pretty depressing for both partners. The feelings of rejection and loss are difficult to deal with but it’s one of those things most of us will experience at some time in our life. If it happens we shouldn’t bottle up our feelings but try and deal with our problems positively. It may not be much of a comfort but overcoming any difficulty helps us learn a bit more about ourselves and this can help us in future situations.
Breaking the bad news
If you’re the one ending the relationship it’s best to try and do it as gently as possible. Although it’s never easy telling someone you don’t want to go out with them anymore, you can make it less painful by:
- Telling them as soon as you’re sure of your feelings
- Telling them in a quiet place where you can both talk without having to shout over the latest Kaiser Chiefs record.
- Making sure you tell them before you’ve told anyone else.
- Telling them face-to-face, not by phone or text or by getting your best mate to tell them.
Going it alone
It’s a good thing to realise that we can still get on with life by ourselves. If we managed to feed and clothe ourselves – and have the odd big night out – before we met our partner then the chances are we can still do these things after they’ve gone. It also helps having the support of family and friends who can make us feel more positive about ourselves.
If someone’s broken up with you it can be pretty devastating, especially if it came out of the blue. But with the help of your close friends you’ll eventually be able to put it behind you. It’s also a good idea to go out with your mates – remember this’ll be a lot easier if you didn’t cut yourself off from them when you were going out with your partner.
